How To Pray For A Good Man

If you are a woman already in the right season to open yourself up for courtship, dating, and eventually getting married, a good man is perhaps one of the things you are praying to God for. After all, who wouldn’t want to date and marry a good man who will be a good husband and father to your future family? We are talking about a man who will have the responsibility to lead, protect, provide, care for, and love you spiritually, physically, and emotionally. As you enter the season of courtship and marriage, consider a partner who values you and grows alongside you. Pray for a relationship that’s rooted in the Gospel and inspires each other to godliness.

Dear Father, as I enter the season of courtship and marriage, I pray for a good man who reflects Your love and character. May our relationship be grounded in Christ and virtue; may we inspire each other in growth toward godliness. In Jesus’ name, I pray. Amen.

What Does the Bible Say About a Good Man?

Whenever you pray for a “good man,” it is always beneficial to align your understanding and perspective of a “good man” based on how the Bible defines it. The world will always have standards that are contrary to the Bible. For example, in the eyes of the world, a good-looking, high-earning, and charming man is considered ideal. While there is nothing inherently wrong with those traits, in a biblical sense, a good man for dating and marriage goes beyond a man’s looks, earnings, and appeal. A good man should first be a follower of Christ. We can never expect a man to care for, lead, provide for, and inspire you to grow in holiness if he is not a follower of Christ and does not submit himself under the Lordship of Jesus (2 Cor 5:17 Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new., John 8:12, John 15:4 Abide in me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself, except it abide in the vine; no more can ye, except ye abide in me.). That is why, in 2 Cor 6:14, Paul tells us that we are not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what business do we in the light have with those in darkness? The same applies when getting into dating and marriage.

 

A man should follow Christ first because it is where the rest follows. A man who values God’s Word over the counsel of the wicked perseveres in the faith and bears fruit, for He abides in Christ. His delight is in the Word of God; he meditates on it to apply it, and he prayerfully asks God for the grace to live it out. It is a man who is in Christ and is a new creation with new desires in his heart—to honor God and pursue holiness. In such a man, the Holy Spirit is at work; this allows him to bear fruit and reflect the character of Christ to others (Gal 5:22-23). It is a man whose heart has been turned from stone to flesh and who fears God, and this is the beginning of wisdom. So, a God-fearing man is a man who walks in wisdom, righteousness, prudence, and discernment. In other words, what you are to pray for is not just a good man but, rather, a godly man. The only man worthy of your submission is a devout man who is submitted to God. This does not mean that he is perfect, but that he is a fellow believer whose life is surrendered to Christ and who aims to live for His glory.

How Can You Pray for a Good Man?

As you pray to God for a good and godly man, you can pray from your heart by not compromising your standards to the standards of this world or settling for less just because of impatience. So, you can pray to God for the grace to always have that conviction of waiting rather than compromising (Romans 12:2 And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.).

Heavenly Father, as I pray for a good, godly man, empower me to hold fast to my values as a Christian and avoid compromising with worldly standards due to my impatience. Grant me the grace to wait with conviction and trust in Your perfect timing. Guide my choices, Lord, and ensure that they align with Your wisdom. May my patient waiting be a testament to faith in Your divine providence. In Jesus’ name, I pray. Amen.

You also pray by simply asking God for a good and godly man. As it is written in James 4:2, sometimes we do not have because we do not ask. However, as we ask God, we must ensure that God is our greatest delight. Delighting in God affects our desires, as we desire the things that would glorify Him (Ps 37:4 Delight thyself also in the Lord: and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart.). Every desire becomes all about Him, even the desire to get married. We can have the same heart as Abraham’s servant, who asked God for guidance to lead him to the right woman for his master’s son (Gen 24). The passage does not tell us to ask God for specific signs; rather, as we act on it by being present in our church as ladies, we trust God that He will bring us the man He has for us.

Father in heaven, I ask for a good and godly partner. However, as I desire and ask You for a man, may I first find joy and delight in You. Shape my desires to honor and glorify You, even my desire for a romantic relationship. Guide me, and let every choice be centered on You. I trust that You’ll lead me to the right person. In Jesus’ name, I pray. Amen.

As you pray to God for a good and godly man, you can also ask God to rid you of idolatry. What we mean here is the idolatry that we sometimes have because of our ideals. In other words, we have this ideal impression of what we want in a man, and this has become our idol. The problem is that this is a very idealistic standard that no man could meet other than Christ. This makes it an idol because you think this man is the only one who can complete and satisfy you. But only God can do that. So, if you think the man you date should be like your vision instead of God’s, a godly man who has good potential might not be considered because he doesn’t make your cut. That is different from upholding biblical standards.

Heavenly Father, I ask for Your guidance as I seek a good and godly man. Help me rid myself of any idolatry that might stem from my unrealistic ideals. May my heart be open to those who align with Your standards rather than being fixated on an idealized image. Grant me the wisdom to discern genuine compatibility based on shared values. May my search for a partner be grounded in reality and faith. In Jesus’ name, I pray. Amen.

(James 1:17 Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning.) tells us that every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and it comes down from the Father of lights, with Whom there is no variation or shadow due to change. That is your confidence as you ask God for a godly man and enter a season of courtship, dating, and marriage. Whoever He allows you to marry is a gift from Him that is good. God allows only what is good for us.