How To Pray After A Breakup

A breakup is a painful thing for anyone to experience. After all, you are breaking off a relationship that you had with someone you cared for or loved. Breakups are common in romantic relationships among non-Christians. They date someone, and then they break up after some time. The reasons are mostly bad ones. Sometimes they fall in love with someone else and break up with the person they are currently dating. It could also be that they simply got tired of their partner, and then broke up with them. A Christian can see why such breakups happen so often among non-Christian romantic relationships. It is because they don’t date with a purpose. Non-Christians date just for the sake of dating. That is why, if they get tired of it, they break up. Sometimes things are just complicated, even for non-Christians. It may be that they are in a long-distance relationship or are going through unique problems as a couple. Those are also some of the common reasons why partners break up.

However, whatever reason it is that non-Christians have for breaking up, it all boils down to missing the very purpose of why we date, which is marriage. The difference between Christians and non-Christians who enter into a relationship is that Christians have marriage in mind as they date. When a man courts a woman, a Christian man sees a woman as a potential spouse. When a Christian woman agrees to date a Christian man, she also sees the man as a potential spouse. Not only that, but Christians make sure that everything they do when it comes to dating is right and honorable in the eyes of God. That means they don’t flirt if they don’t intend to pursue or date a person. In everything they do, they guard their hearts. Christians guard their hearts because the Bible commands us to do so. It is the wellspring of life, the core of one’s being, where one’s thoughts, feelings, choices, desires, etc., are coming from. If a Christian fails to guard it and falls in love recklessly, they will expose themselves to unnecessary heartaches. That is why we ought to always guard our hearts. Christians obey God’s Word and let it dictate everything with regards to their dating life, which is why Christians rarely experience breakups, because the way they date is different from the rest of the world. The bottom line of dating for Christians is to date with marriage in mind and to honor God with their relationship, upholding their purity and making sure that everything that they do is pleasing in the eyes of God.

Proverbs 4:23

Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.

1 Corinthians 10:31

Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God.

Philippians 4:8

Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.

How To Pray After A Breakup:

Heavenly Father, You are the God who gives me grace and empowers me. Help me, Father, and give me the grace to always guard my heart when it comes to dating and that in everything I do, I shall always make sure that it honors You and that it is right in Your eyes. Let my relationship be a good example towards Christians who are not yet dating and may my dating relationship never be a stumbling block to others. In Jesus’ name, I pray. Amen.

Will God restore a broken relationship?

Luke 6:46

And why call ye me, Lord, Lord, and do not the things which I say?

Luke 11:28

But he said, Yea rather, blessed are they that hear the word of God, and keep it.

Matthew 16:24

Then said Jesus unto his disciples, If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow me.

There are relationships that God can restore, yet we don’t know if He will, and there are those that He won’t. For example, if a Christian couple broke up because they realized that they were not yet in the dating season, since they were students, God may or may not bring back the relationship in the future. God might restore their relationship later on, when they are already in the right season to date. At the same time, there are relationships that God will never restore, like a newly converted Christian who left a very sinful relationship or an abusive one. Whether a relationship is going to be restored or not, it is up to the infinite wisdom of God. We are not to trust our understanding, but His. The Bible says that everything works together for the good of those who love God. Even the breakups that we experience are all for our own good. Yes, it is painful, but it is for our own good. You don’t know how much damage a relationship would have caused you, if not for that breakup. Our definition of good is different from God’s definition of good. Our minds are finite, and God’s wisdom is infinite. That is why we must humble ourselves and submit to Him and trust in what He defines as good.

What do you pray for after a breakup?

One of the ways you can pray to God after a breakup is through a prayer of humility, where you trust not your understanding of things, but God’s. Sometimes, we see a breakup as something terrible in our limited human understanding and may even blame God for it. While it is indeed awful, it does not mean that its effect on our lives is terrible. God can use what is seemingly a painful breakup for our good. Maybe someone else is better, or perhaps that relationship, in the long run, would only do us harm. We don’t know. Only God knows. However, we do know that God’s infinite wisdom is so vast that we cannot comprehend it. His ways are higher than our ways, His thoughts are above our thoughts, and He loves us. That is why we can trust Him. One thing we do know is that whether those are bad things or good things that we experience, everything works together for our betterment.

Isaiah 55:8-9

8 For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the Lord.

9 For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts.

Isaiah 28:29

This also cometh forth from the Lord of hosts, which is wonderful in counsel, and excellent in working.

Proverbs 3:5-7

5 Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.

6 In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.

7 Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the Lord, and depart from evil.

Romans 8:28

And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.

Genesis 50:20

But as for you, ye thought evil against me; but God meant it unto good, to bring to pass, as it is this day, to save much people alive.

God of wisdom, whose infinite wisdom governs everything in the universe, even up to the tiniest of details, Help me trust You and never lean on my own understanding in this season of heartache. Thank You because everything You allow in my life is for my ultimate good, even the breakup that I am going through right now. It is where I get sanctified even more and grow as a Christian. Like with Joseph, whose brothers’ evil deed you used in turn for his betterment, you in Your sovereignty will use this break up for my good. Thank You because your love is steadfast, no matter what I go through. In Jesus’ name, I pray. Amen.

Another thing you can pray for is healing. Breakups, regardless of the reason behind them, are often painful. At such times, it is good to pray to God for healing and comfort:

Father in heaven, You are Jehovah Rapha, the God who heals. You are also the God who sees my tears and affliction. Father, I pray for healing upon my aching heart. Thank You because You said in Your word that You are near to the brokenhearted and that you bind up their wounds. As I go through this painful season, you are the God who comforts me and shows me mercy. In Jesus’ name, I pray. Amen.

As mentioned, God can use breakups for our betterment. It is where we grow all the more in our spiritual path after getting rid of a relationship that is a sin in the eyes of God. A prayer that is about your spiritual walk with God and your commitment to follow Christ would be a good prayer to pray:

Lord Jesus, You are the King of kings and the Lord of lords who sits on the throne. I pray that Your Lordship shall continue to reign, not just in my relationships, but in every area of my life. Give me the grace to always surrender and give up every sinful thing in my life that dishonors You. In You, I have the grace to renounce any ungodliness and worldliness and to live a holy, blameless, and upright life that is pleasing in the eyes of the Father. In Your name, I pray. Amen.

Whenever you experience a breakup, you should see it as something you can thank God for. Ironic as it may sound, it is. That breakup is a sign of God’s mercy for you, because if not for that breakup, you don’t know, life may have been just horrible, or it would have hindered your growth as a Christian. Nonetheless, it is essential to remember that such breakups can be avoidable. You can avoid them by guarding your heart, ensuring that you do everything right in the eyes of God, and being accountable to fellow believers who will correct you and give you godly counsel.